Children Learn What They Live

Excerpts from a poem by Dorothy Law Nolte If a Child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn If a child live with hostility, he learns to fight If a child lives with shame he learns to feel guilty If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident If a...

5 Ways to Cope with Stress

Exercise – It seems like a simple thing but the research clearly shows that when we exercise the good chemicals in our brain are released. You may have heard of endorphins. These chemicals make you feel happy and come from the pleasure receptors in your brain....

Forgiveness

Forgiveness can be one of he hardest concepts to understand, but one of the most helpful actions you can take. If you want to move on and give yourself the life of a hero, not a victim, consider the power of forgiveness.Here are some steps to assist you in the process...

Pain is Inevitable Suffering is not

I have recently come across clients who allow themselves to suffer after a painful event in their lives. Maybe a divorce, or a betrayal by a loved one has occurred. The event may truly be painful but holding on to the anger and hurt can only result in suffering. Read...

10 Things Divorced Parents Should Not Do

1.Do Not talk badly, put down, or call my other parent bad names. This makes me feel torn apart and puts me down too.   2.Do Not talk about money, child support, or adult matters. This makes me feel like I have to “fix it”, or that I’m just a possession.   3.Do...

Protect Your Children

Remember when you were first learning to drive how you asked to practice every chance you could. Or if you’ve ever played a sport such as baseball, soccer or tennis you had many hours of practice until you became proficient. Well, we do not have the luxury of...

It’s an Illusion

Excerpt from: The Co-Parent Survival Guide,  Thayer  & Zimmerman From: Vi Ballard, MFT, LACFLA Board Member   It Must Be Fair There is an illusion for many parents and divorce professionals that the amount of time each parent spends with the children should...